If you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP) like me, you know what it’s like to be truly “flooded.” Flooding is another term for being overwhelmed emotionally or mentally, and HSPs are especially susceptible because of how our brains are wired.
Our nervous systems have a lower “threshold,” which means we’re more responsive to stimuli. There’s also evidence that there’s overlap between the parts of the brain that influence our high sensitivity and our empathic responses.
In other words: The brain of the HSP is hardwired to be ready to respond to their world.
And that response can sometimes be extremely uncomfortable.
What Does It Mean to Be Flooded?
Imagine you’re 8 years old and it’s way past your bedtime, but you’re desperately craving a cookie, so you sneak downstairs in the ultimate stealth mode to avoid getting caught by your parents. You open the jar and gently set the lid down, reach your hand in, and freeze — absolutely certain you just heard a noise.
Immediately your heart starts racing, your ears throb as they strain to hear any noise, your body tenses in preparation of having to move at the speed of light if your parents do indeed know you were in pursuit of a cookie… and your brain starts developing possible explanations for being out of bed.
This is very similar to how HSPs function in day-to-day life. Our bodies and minds are at constant attention, ready to react to any situation with the necessary emotional or physical responses. (Take a breath, by the way — you succeeded in getting the cookie and sneaking back to bed unnoticed!)
Because of this heightened readiness to respond to any given situation, it’s easier for HSPs to get overwhelmed by things that may not phase non-HSPs. For example, a highly sensitive person may be impacted by:
- Bright lights
- Semi-loud noises
- A change in temperature
- A slight change in someone’s mood
- …or anything else that changes without warning
Given the way we’re influenced by even these subtle parts of life, the “big” things are much bigger for us, too. It’s when faced with things like meeting your boss, interviewing for a job, addressing conflict with a friend, or listening to someone vent that our reactivity can lead us to be flooded.
And for HSPs with mental disorders such as anxiety, it becomes even easier to be triggered.
How to Recognize Flooding
Flooding is different for everyone, but chances are, you’ll know it when it happens. Symptoms of flooding can include:
- You may have a hard time focusing as your brain gets overwhelmed trying to process information.
- You may suddenly feel anxious — or you withdraw mentally as the brain “overheats” and copes by turning off for a second.
- Your fight-or-flight response kicks in. You may debate whether you can stick the situation out or if you need to flee to “safety.”
- Your emotions may be all over the place. You may not be able to explain which emotions you’re feeling.
- You may have physical symptoms such as sweaty hands, tunnel vision, or lightheadedness.
- Outwardly, flooding can look like panic or a complete shut-down.
Whatever form it takes, being flooded is an uncomfortable feeling, and it can take a long time to come down.
7 Ways to Deal with Emotional Flooding
Here are techniques to employ when you’re being flooded, as well as when you need to decompress afterward:
1. Leave if you have to
Honestly evaluate whether you need to remove yourself from the situation. If you’re having panic or unsafe thoughts, you have the right to politely excuse yourself for a moment and do what you need to do to get to a healthy place mentally. That may be going to the bathroom, the break room, or your car for a couple moments and breathing, calling a friend, or listening to your favorite song. If you need to leave, you have the permission to do so.
This is probably the most common, over-emphasized anxiety-reducing technique ever suggested… but there’s a reason for that. Breathing really does work! And it can be done subtly. Try taking a big breath and then huffing it out quickly. Or, breathe in counting to five, and then breathe out counting to five again. Go slower than you feel is normal; soon your heart rate will start coming down and the oxygen will help your brain. The anxiety will tell you that you can’t afford to slow down your breathing, but try it anyways. It’s worth it.
3. Count things
This sounds weird, but it works. You can count five things you see, four things you hear, three things you can touch, etc., or you can count to 100. Counting backwards by increments of three is especially effective as it engages the brain more than counting up, thereby taking your brain out of anxiety mode.
4. Try tapping
Similarly, many HSPs benefit from a technique called “tapping.” Tapping involves gently tapping certain places on your own body to distract the anxious part of the brain and re-engage your logic centers. You can learn about tapping here.
5. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness can be helpful after being flooded, as it soothes the brain and gets your focus back on the present. Practicing it consistently may help reduce the frequency of being flooded. There are many apps for this, such as Breathe, Headspace, and Calm.
6. Treat yourself
Let’s be real — these moments suck. So, in the moment, be as empathetic to yourself as you would be to your best friend if he or she was flooded. Speak kind, non-judgemental thoughts to yourself. Validate your body and mind’s response by telling yourself something like, “Hey, yes, I’m feeling flooded, but I’m okay, and I’m going to feel a lot better in a couple minutes.”
And be good to yourself. You can be frustrated that the flooding happened, but don’t be frustrated with yourself for being flooded. See it as an accomplishment that you made it through, and reward yourself with some self-care, whether that be a latte (probably go decaf after being flooded), making a favorite dinner, or going on a long walk.
7. Tell someone
The scariest part of these moments is feeling like you’re the only one who has them. Find someone trusted and express how you reacted to a situation. They very well might know exactly how you feel (or they may simply know other HSPs).
Either way, talking about it is helpful because it normalizes your experience, and then if flooding happens again, you already have an ally in your court who can support you as you do what you need to do to take care of yourself. (And if this is a common experience for you, talking to a professional therapist or counselor may be another great course of action.)
If you’re an HSP, flooding might be a regular occurrence in your life, but know you’re not alone — and there are many ways to help yourself through those moments.
You might like:
- 20 Self-Care Ideas for Highly Sensitive People
- 21 Signs That You’re a Highly Sensitive Person
- 14 Things Highly Sensitive People Absolutely Need to Be Happy
- Why Do Highly Sensitive People Absorb Other People’s Emotions?
- 13 Problems Only Highly Sensitive People Will Understand
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